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MARRIAGE AND COUPLES THERAPY Communication is a common challenge for couples and understandably so! When you have two passionate, intelligent people that have feelings and needs, how do we ensure that we share and listen effectively? In the image, you will see 3 steps that explain how to share your feelings and needs while being an active listener and emotion coach for your partner. Staying Connected Dr. Gottman has conducted over four decades of research with couples. Gottman speaks of “leaning in” or “towards” your partner. What does that mean? Essentially if your partner makes a “bid” or call for some type of attention, you respond. Here is a video that explains Gottman’s bid for attention. Grab your partner and cuddle up. I hope you enjoy it! |
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When your partner "flips their lid" Have you ever experienced a moment with your partner and it escalates really quickly? Your partner gets aggravated, upset and is fighting/freezing/fleeing the situation/conversation? This happens when we "flip our lid". Grab your partner and cuddle up. I hope this video helps. I hope you enjoy it. If we work together, I can help you both understand how not to get defensive or activated when your partner "flips their lid". |
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INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOTHERAPY
While I work with individuals on many different issues, I’d like to share a resource for a common feeling, anxiety, that arises in many people. I learned that my anxiety is one "part" of me, and not all of me. My anxiety is a protector that wants to keep me sheltered from feeling fear, worry, pain and sadness. My anxiety (like all feelings) is important and it no longer controls me. In the image I created that will hopefully help you with your anxiety part*. *some individuals do require medication so I work closely with physicians and psychiatrists to ensure collaborative quality of care for those clients When I "flip my lid" If you have ever heard of the phrase "flipping your lid" and want to know more, this video is for you. If you have trauma in your history, most of us do, then please watch this video to learn more about the brain science behind why sometimes we can "overreact" to a person or situation and "flip our lid". We may get angry, upset or overly irritated and not understand why because that particular situation didn't feel that big until some big feeling "hijacked" us and our reactions. |
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Training: I provide trainings in The Nurtured Heart Approach (NHA) and Gottman's Emotion Coaching
Please note: the only service I offer for children and their families is the trainings. I do not offer child/family counseling. To schedule a training, please email me at [email protected] or text 512-249-8544. |
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Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
Highly sensitive people (HSP) make up approximately 15-20% of the population. Individuals with this personality style have increased sensitivity to physical, emotional and/or social stimuli. Moving thru life this way can feel challenging and overwhelming. I am here to help! As an HSP, therapy with me can help you understand this aspect of your personality. Also you will find two videos here to provide you, and those that love you, more information about being an HSP... As an HSP we are predisposed to feeling things deeply and intensely. Therefore there are challenges that we face with being an HSP. Personally I wouldn't change it! While there are times that I wish I could dial it down, I consider it my superpower. For you HSPs, and those that love you, watch this video to explain 13 problems that only HSPs will probably relate to... |
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Melissa Gaber, M.A., LMFT Supervisor
Gentle Connections Counseling Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Supervisor Highly Sensitive Therapist I specialize in seeing couples, HSPs, individuals [email protected] - 512 249 8544 |